Your Husband Doesnt Want Sex Anymore? 5 Shocking Reasons and Solutions
It is quite perplexing to a wife when she sees that her husband does not want sex. After all, she may hear statements like: “All you, as a wife, have to do to prepare your husband for sex is to show up !
Here are five reasons why you may see your husband refuse sex for an extended period of time. Some of them are shockingly simple, but at least one is shocking in the usual sense of the word.
1. Feelings of Failure in Other Areas
Your husband may be experiencing failure in other areas of his life, and, as such, he may be worried about his performance in this area. While we think of women viewing all of life as being related, in some cases, problems in other areas may fuel a perceived fear of failure in this area.
The solution, if you see your husband refuse sex for this reason, is to be understanding and supportive. Be careful about making disparaging and demeaning statements. He really needs your admiration.
2. Unresolved Anger
You and your husband may have some issues with unresolved anger. Even if you worked through something in the past, he may still be harboring bitter and unpleasant thoughts. He feels that he can not get them out of his mind. His natural desire is clouded by the unresolved anger.
For you, as a wife, marriage problems related to communication failures should be something you are willing to work on. Find out if this involves an anger issue. Talk through the problem. Help him bring it out in the open. Then, work together to resolve the anger issues.
3. Overworked and Stressed Out
Another reason you may see your husband refuse sex is that he may be overworked and stressed out. If that is the case, try to help him relax. Try not to add more stress at home. Perhaps, gently suggest that both of you will benefit from learning techniques to deal with stress.
Read good books, or listen to tapes on the subject. Sometimes time-management principles can help couples to conquer the harmful effects of stress. Principles of learning how to understand different personality types will sometimes stress stress in the workplace.
4. Physical Issues
A fourth reason why your husband does not want sex anymore could be that he is experiencing a physical issue. One man went to his doctor and took some tests. His doctor said, “You must get tired very easily.” It turned out that he had some low testosterone levels.
The solution is for the husband, or the couple together, to have a frank discussion with a medical professional. Sometimes a prescription will have a surprising effect in how much it remedies the situation.
5. Inappropriate Sexual Activities or Fantasies
A shocking reason, in the true sense of the word, why your husband does not want sex with you anymore is that he has become engaged inappropriate sexual activities or obsessive fantasies about how he would engage inappropriate sexual activities with another woman.
If he has truly been unfaithful, you will have to decide if you really want him back. The solution in this case is for him to go through steps of repentance, and for you to work through the issues to the point to where you can forgive him. He will have to rebuild trust, and new safeguards will have to be set up. Still, when both partners are willing, marriages can be restored. When they are successfully restored, the former feelings of excitement and passion can be rebuilt.
These five shocking reasons and solutions to the situations where your husband does not want to have sex can be very helpful. However, they do not form the whole answer.
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